Yesterday I had a chat with a young agender person I know about dysmorphia and dysphoria. I wasn’t all that sure what the two words meant so I’m writing this blog post to get clear in my own mind.
Body Dysmorphia – “Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is an anxiety disorder that causes sufferers to spend a lot of time worrying about their appearance and to have a distorted view of how they look.”
Gender Dysphoria – “Gender dysphoria is a condition where a person experiences discomfort or distress because there is a mismatch between their biological sex and gender identity…This mismatch between sex and gender identity can lead to distressing and uncomfortable feelings that are called gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is a recognised medical condition, for which treatment is sometimes appropriate.
When I went back and read my opening paragraph to this post I wondered if I had used the right term to describe the gender identity of the young person I know. Should I have used transgender?
Agender is a term which can be literally translated as ‘without gender’. It can be seen either as a non-binary gender identity or as a statement of not having a gender identity. People who identify as agender may describe themselves as one or more of the following:
- Genderless or lacking gender.
- Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense of being neither man or woman yet still having a gender.
- Neutrois or neutrally gendered.
- Having an unknown or undefinable gender; not aligning with any gender.
- Having no other words that fit their gender identity.
- Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an internal identity and/or as an external label.
- Deciding not to label their gender.
- Identifying more as a person than any gender at all. http://gender.wikia.com/wiki/Agender
Transgender people are people who have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from their assigned sex… Being transgender is independent of sexual orientation; transgender people may identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, asexual, etc., or may consider conventional sexual orientation labels inadequate or inapplicable. The term transgender can also be distinguished from intersex, a term that describes people born with physical sex characteristics “that do not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender
I am still having a lot of trouble remembering to use genderless pronouns. e.g they instead or he or she. I was relieved to read that many older people are having trouble with this – particularly those of us who were taught rigid rules of grammar when we were young.
Many young people are currently questioning many assumptions about gender. I am finding this spirit of inquiry is making me question my conditioned ideas on the subject.
‘Research in neurology, endocrinology, and cellular biology points to a broader biological basis for an individual’s experience of gender. In fact, research increasingly points to our brains as playing a key role in how we each experience our gender. Bodies themselves are also gendered in the context of cultural expectations. Masculinity and femininity are equated with certain physical attributes, labeling us as more or less a man/woman based on the degree to which those attributes are present. This gendering of our bodies affects how we feel about ourselves and how others perceive and interact with us.’ https://www.genderspectrum.org/quick-links/understanding-gender/
Further on in the article quoted above I read that many young people are currently seeing gender as a spectrum rather than a binary.
I love that idea though it may take me quite some time to fully comprehend the deeper implications of it.
There is so much learn about gender issues. For me it’s about keeping an open mind and reading up on the subject. One article I read said it’s not really up to the person experiencing gender issues to explain their position to others. It’s up to all of us to do our own research and reading. I agree with that but I also think clear and open communication is vital.